Book on Femininity
Muhammad Speaks Newspaper
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Book on Femininity
Table of Contents
2. Language & Coversation……………………………………….
3. Some Facts About “Gossip”……………………………………
4. How Not To Use Our Tongues……………………………….
5. How We Should Use Our Tongues………………………….
8. Mannerisms (At Home and Abroad)………………………..
9. Temple Manners
11. Quotes From the
12. List of
Class of femininity having those qualities that distinguishes you as a
woman, as Black Women in the M.G.T. & G.C.C. of femininity. We are imbued
and enriched with those qualities which makes us distinguished, makes us
stand out front. It makes us the cream, the best in civilized society. It
makes us first and foremost among women.
“I CAN SIT ON TOP OF THE WORLD AND TELL ANYONE THAT THE MOST BEAUTIFUL
NATION IS IN THE WILDERNESS OF NORTH AMERICA. BUT DO NOT LET ME CATCH ANY
SISTER OTHER THAN HER OWN SELF, IN REGARDS TO LIVING THE LIFE, AND
Words of Master Fard Muhammad, Allah (God) In Person
Excerpts from lesson on The Black Woman
“The Black Woman is the first woman to walk in the Sun. The Black Woman
in true perspective is the Queen of the planet Earth and Mother of all
“The Black Woman is more precious than a treasured, black pearl found
deep within the oceans water.”
“The Black Woman is the most prized possession of Allah, the most
beautiful of the completion of Allah’s creation.”
When speaking of she who is kind, one speaks of she who is most loved and
chosen for Himself (Allah). For she is a child among children, born of
the holy of holies.
For when in the presence of someone who is kind one feels soothed and
elevated by them. By kindness I do not mean an individual who allows any
and every passerby to misuse and abuse her, but rather by kindness that
individual sees in the person she encounters. The essence of their
God-like selves and the essence of herself. With this insight she
intuitively reaches out and touches, loves and soothes that persons
spirit, heart and soul. There-by both the person who is kind and the
person who receives the kindness is each elevated to higher spiritual
plateaus, within their individual realms. For Kindness is an Attribute of
When speaking of a sister, we say her complete name. If the Messenger
gives someone holy name then use it. Call her by her holy name. It is
said that Sister Clara Muhammad desires to be called by her complete
name; that is Sister Clara Muhammad.
We should always be courteous to our husband. Saying please and thank you
and yes sir.
When we enter the room, we give the greetings. The responsibility lies
with you to extend the greetings first. Give the greetings to all present
(as a group).
We should speak only loud enough for the person we are speaking to, to
When using a rest room, leave it clean and neat; leaving no soiled things
behind, or personal objects.
When wearing our garments, we should not go in a store or restaurant to
purchase candy, ice cream, or the like, but send a Brother for you.
When going on a trip, you should carry something with you to eat.
We do not stay in motels or hotels when traveling abroad alone.
We should strive to shop with a sister for their is safety in numbers.
When shopping, know what you are buying, get it and move quickly to your
When someone visits your home, have adequate clean articles for each
person and a place to dispose of soiled towels.
* A foolish woman is clamorous. She is simple and knoweth nothing
* So I said I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue.”
* We as M.G.T. must strive to speak calmly, softly and distinctively.
Your words should be carefully chosen and spoken in quiet tones (think
five times before speaking).
* Do not be snappy with others regardless of how you feel, as it shows
weakness and lack of self control. Boisterous, loud voices are a sign
of vulgarity and shows a lack of refinement. We do not laugh loud, but
rather softly. Do not belittle others or laugh when they have made an
error. Do not laugh when you have made an error, as it shows a lack of
understanding on your part. It is also rude.
* Do not become loud and boisterous when being corrected for an error
you have made, rather take the correction calmly, intelligently and
gracefully as this is a civilized attitude.
* When making suggestions, to anyone, keep them in the form and tone of
suggestions and do not make them sound like orders, as we are not to
give orders, but to take them.
* When in public, we keep our voices low and use proper words to
express ourselves. This applies also when in the presence of brothers,
speak softly to them, not loud or noisily.
* Avoid anger, as it tends to make you loose control and possibly say
things for which you may later be sorry. Anger brings out the worst in
you. This is a negative emotion and it shows a lack of self control.
* “And in their mouth was found no guile for they were without fault
before the throne of God.”
The art of conversation is a simple matter of good manners which are easy
to describe and easier to carry out. All general conversation whether at
the level of a great art or a little pleasure should be conducted within
this act of civilized limits.
1. No monologues. An informative speech no matter how interesting can not
be considered conversation.
2. No languages which all in the group do not understand.
3. No member of the group should be left out. The one who is speaking
should always look from one to the other. No topic too difficult for any
member of the group should be discussed.
4. Sometimes in a group of well informed people, there will be one who
though joining happily in the conversation is obviously beyond his
depths. In cases like this, steer the conversation to another subject.
5. No blanket or harsh attacks on religion, nationalist, political parties
Some Facts About “G O S S I P”
1. What’s easy to say may be hard to bear
2. What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t invent with your mouth.
3. It’s easier to hear a secret than to keep it.
4. A tongue can be a dangerous weapon.
5. If you want to find out what’s happening in your house, talk to
6. Loose tongues are words than wicked hands.
7. Our ears often don’t hear what our mouths say.
8. Run from gossip as you would run from Danger.
9. Gossip is the most common of human habits and cause the most
10. People eat and drink together, yet pierce each other.
11. Your friend has a friend, and your friend’s friend has a friend
(so be discreet)
12. From a man’s mouth you can tell what he is.
13. Gossip: Nature’s telephone.
14. The whisperer separates friends.
”Study, Read and keep up with the News so you may have something to
HOW NOT TO USE OUR TONGUES
“When you open your mouth, people can see into your mind.”
1. Do not rail or brawl against anyone
2. Do not speak evil of others in their absence
3. Do not exaggerate in any of your statements
4. Do not speak harshly, or make fun of the less fortunate
5. Do not swear, lie or indulge in impure language.
6. Do not made random and improper assertions.
7. Do not speak rashly and violently.
8. Do not deceive people by circulating false reports.
9. Do not offer lip service.
10. Do not use Allah’s name falsely or in vain.
“When you open your mouth, people can see into your mind.”
1. To convey useful information to our people. (Convey good news and
do good deeds and they shall have gardens where rivers flow, great
2. To speak kindly of each other.
3. To be truthful and simple in our statements.
4. To comfort and console the fearful.
5. To cheer the timid and fearful.
6. To defend the innocent and oppressed.
7. To reprove and admonish the wicked.
8. To congratulate the success of the virtuous.
9. To confess our faults to one another.
10. To pray and seek the praises of our God.
We never sit with our legs crossed as this is bad for health and very
We do not fold our arms in front.
We do not slouch when sitting or standing.
We always sit with spine straight
We do not bite our finger nails
We do not lean head or arms or hands as we are not alert when doing
We never switch, stroll, or bob up and down when walking.
We walk erect with shoulders pulled back, buttocks tucked in,
slightly tilted, forward moving quickly, quietly, gracefully and with
We always stand on two feet
We never put hands on hips
We try to keep our hands away from our face and hair or headpiece
When walking up or down stairs, we gently lift the hem of our garment
When standing, have hands gently at side
When sitting, make sure the fold of your skirt is completely over as
not to show the pants.
When sitting, keep both legs together as it looks more dignified.
When sitting, fold hands in lap.
All of your body positions and movements should reflect you finest
qualities and highest morals in a way that demands respect from
everyone. This is civilized.
“Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee; rebuke a wise man, and he
will love thee.” (6)
“The robe of the righteous is white”.
We never wear big clog shoes. We never wear out our shoes.
We should not wear more than three colors at a time.
We never go out of our homes without the proper head covering. We may
wear our headpiece or hat (M.G.T.). We do not have any hair what-so-ever
sticking out of our headpiece. We strive to always be with the garment
the Messenger designed for us when leaving our houses.
We wear a camisole top and ankle length petti pants under all our
garments. (We wear a long slip under a lost-found long skirt.)
We wear conservative clothes. We wear soft pastel shades
We always have our clothes neatly pressed and immaculately clean. Shoes
shined and properly soled. Pocket books clean and shined.
We are not dressed if we do not have gloves. A well-dressed M.G.T. does
not leave her home without her gloves, as she knows that gloves complete
Our nails should be trimmed and clean.
We do not wear hanging earrings as this is out of place with the refined
and tailored M.G.T. look (they may be worn at home).
Our hair should be clean, combed and well-groomed.
Our teeth should be given daily care in the form of teeth brushing and
Bi-annual visits to the Dentist.
We make sure the day before we wear a garment, that it is properly mended
where mending is needed.
We must have our garments well tailored. As it is undignified to wear a
garment that does not fit properly or that is made improperly.
We must strive to look clean, neat, well-pressed and well-tailored each
and every day. Not just for special occasions. For when we appear in
public, they (the public) do not look at us merely as individuals but
rather, they see us as representatives of The Most Honorable Elijah
Muhammad and the Nation of Islam. You will hear them say daily, “there’s
one of them Muslim sisters, you know the Muhammad followers.” As Muslim
sisters, we must give a good impression of Islam and our leader and
teacher, whenever we leave our home.
We must remove spots and soil from our garments, check our hemlines and
necklines to make sure they are in good order.
After finishing her studies as a student of the M.G.T. & G.C.C, the
Muslim sister is never again seen wearing vulgar, immodest, indecent
attire. All of her body positions and movements reflect her finest
qualities, highest morals, and in a way that demands the respect of
everyone, Black and white, Muslims or non-Muslims. Her words are
carefully chosen and spoken in tones that reflect the finest qualities of
the Muslim woman, for she is taught that Allah hates boisterous, loud or
rough voices…according to the Holy Qur’an…”these bad characteristics
greatly detract from the delicate, soft, feminine beauty which is the
very nature of the Black woman.”
Etiquette is a set of rules for proper conduct, observed by polite
society the world over. The essence of the rules of etiquette is kindness
and consideration for the other person. Convention change along with the
times but the basic rules of good manners never change.
Good behavior is everybody’s business and good taste can be everyone’s
goal. A code of behavior is an inevitable part of life in any community.
A system or set of rules is vital for anything in which human beings are
involved. Common sense demands a system. The value of etiquette can be
analyzed as follows:
1. It has practical value because it has made time and thought savings
on technicalities, such as wording and forms of invitation
2. It has an attractive side like putting flowers on the table for the
sake of beauty and gracefulness
3. It has a great civic value, this is the prime contribution of
etiquette. Civil values lie in the fact that etiquette imposes
consideration for others.
4. It demands willingness to discipline oneself for the sake of others.
5. Etiquette has sometimes been questioned because it can as a
substitute for kindness or gratitude. But the one who pretends to a
virtue has lacks is not as dangerous to society as the one who
convinces others that virtue is unnecessary.
6. The greatest value of etiquette is its value to the individual.
Good behavior may be useful to society, but it is part of man.
“Manners make the man.” It is part of your character and you can’t
escape it or leave it behind.
7. Good manners in public are perhaps more than anything else the mark
of a civilized people. Without them, what should be perfectly normal
action, like sitting on a bus or waiting in line of a ticket can be
turned into a maddening experience.
8. A Muslim sister is never loud and she speaks in a soft voice,
especially in public. We are taught by the Messenger of Allah that the
mother molds a civilization.
9. Let us attract our lost sisters with our dress and our manner.
10. When we lower our dignity with loose expression and vulgarity of
words it lowers us.
11. Display our best nature, conduct, accomplishment , smiles and
appearances at home as well as abroad.
12. We do not shake hands with our gloves on, nor do we pray with
13. A Muslim sister would never eat walking down the street, nor
would she go into a store to buy a piece of candy. She would send a
brother for her.
14. An attitude of deference and respect whenever one enters the
Temple, should be taught to children at the earliest possible age.
The proper behavior ought to be observed by the young from the
attitude and behavior of their seniors.
15. When you get up in the morning, dress yourself properly, you
never know who may come to visit. Take care of yourself first.
16. When in the presence of the Messenger, never speak louder than
our Holy Apostle. When entering his home, remove your headpiece. When
entering any Muslims home remove your headpiece.
“I will praise thee for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous
are thy works. For who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far
above rubies. Strength and honor are her clothing: and she shall rejoice
in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdoms and in her tongue is
the law of kindness. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou
excellests them all. For favor is deceitful and beauty is vain. But a
sister that feareth Allah, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit
of her hands: and let her own works praise her in the gates. ”